Surviving Your 1/3rd Life Crisis

You’ve made it this far.  High school is a distant memory. College is gone and, just maybe, graduate school.  You’re on your own or married, kids or pets.

Then one day it hits.

Walking across the parking lot at work, the breeze catches an amber leaf as it dances in your direction. Mowing the lawn at dusk, the first wisp of wood smoke in the air. Sitting in a neighborhood cafe, cup of coffee in hand and novel in the other.

In these moments of peace, eternity sneaks up and taps you on the shoulder.

What are you doing? Where are you going? What have you done this far?

How will you impact the future?

For me, it was night.  These thoughts always came at night, with a quiet house, and the sounds of crickets coming through the windows. I would sit in my thoughts, fight emotional battles, weigh myself against peers and try to measure my value. Sleep felt like admitting defeat.  The sun would still come up and, somehow, I’d left unused minutes on the table that I could never get back.

These struggles come often at the end of your second and start of your third decade of life. The severity all depends on what we tell ourselves. We fall back on our foundations. The formative period in life is over. Now you are an adult. Now it gets serious. Now you contribute.

Everything counts.

In upcoming posts, we’ll examine the 1/3rd life crisis as men, women, married couples, parents, and believers. There are ways to make it through and it is a journey we all take together.

Connected Promise:

 “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5: 3-4

The dark nights of the soul lead to questions.  God can take your honesty (page through Psalms one day and check out David’s honesty).  As you progress, remember the verse above and the end result of hope. What more could we ask for as we proceed? Hold onto hope and never let it go.

Soundtrack Inspiration:

Phil Wickham, This is Amazing Grace. If you don’t know Wickham, download his latest album.  Great music and deep worship.