I usually spend time on Yahoo’s main page during the week to check out news items. The internet if full of time-killers and this provides more than enough material for a lunch break. Today, I came across a story that I had to share.
Here’s the headline from the Good Morning America article (a little wordy for my taste):
Take a second and wrap your mind around it. Meet the men, having sex with strangers, to help them have babies.
The story gives two examples of men advertising free sex to women for the sole purpose of procreation. The first guy profiled chose to use an alias as he is married with two children and didn’t want his wife knowing. That should be enough of a red flag right there. He claimed to have more than a hundred sexual partners.
The other guy was a young adult, a college student who believed he had great foundational material to give a woman quality offspring. The article even profiles a woman, in her mid 40’s, who sought out this one-time encounter because she had “waited too long” to find a husband and get pregnant.
What have we done with sex?
I can see both sides of the debate. Women have the right to do what they want with their bodies. If they want to find a guy for a purely physical experience, then so be it. “Guys do it all the time.”
We’ve taken this act and debased it down to a transaction.
Everyone has a void in their life. We are created with a space in our hearts that draws us towards our Creator. This void can also take you in different directions. We, as humans, do whatever we can to fill the hole. We drink, smoke, do drugs, buy things, write, paint, draw, and find whatever is possible to fill it.
We lean on love and physical connections to feel like we are not alone.
It is time to reclaim the value of sex.
Any man willing to create a child should be willing to father that child. Women need to know they are worth it to find partners who love and respect them. Teens must understand that the babies don’t go away when they get that text message that says, guess what? I’m pregnant.
I read articles all over the place from blogs to churches and marriage coaches. They say to have sex with your spouse on a daily basis. It will do wonders for your marriage. It will cure everything.
Your husband will love you again.
Your wife will be happy
Sex can cure it all.
They are wrong.
Remember having homework? How did it feel to have something required every night after you got home from school? Did you appreciate the value of what you were doing? Did it get tiring? Did life get in the way?
How about a shift in focus? What if sex, even if it is one night a week, was an amazing experience of focus and effort from two people dealing with the stresses of everyday jobs and kids? It can be a divine escape. Escapes, when they are daily, become routines.
Routines create men who sleep with women to “help them get pregnant.” Routine sex is devalued sex.
We need intimacy.
There is no more intimate relationship than one with God, no more holy transaction than death on the Cross.
I believe that marriages can be fixed. Kids can have their innocence again. Love, effort, and faith can exist together and energize relationships. A guy like the one in the article above can find the connection he wants with his wife and children, not the women he finds for hook-ups. Sex can be returned to its rightful place and the holes in our hearts can be filled.
Soundtrack Inspiration: Kristian Stanfill covered this in concert last night. Powerful song!