Val has needed a new phone for a few months now. She’s had it for a while and I’ve nagged her to replace it. We talked again today as Aiden took his nap and Carter watched a movie.
“I need to go through my pictures,” she said.
“How many do you have on there?” I asked
Now, guys, this is similar to other great questions from our playbook. It can apply to shoes, purses, makeup, whatever the subject.
“A little over two thousand,” she replied.
Two thousand pictures. Years of shots from when the boys were younger. She started going through them as we talked.
The best memories, I told her, are the ones we haven’t made yet.
We all have goals and deadlines. I’ll lose a certain number of pounds by this date. I’ll get a new job, new car, new house. As a writer and someone starting a business, my goals are glaring in the windshield every day that I move forward.
As parents, we could write books of the goals we have for our children.
Our focus can be so intense that we lose sight of the meaningful rewards.
I’m in the process of reading The War of Art by Steven Pressfield and I have no idea why I’d waited this long. He has some great insights on the nature of Resistance and how we handle it in our lives. It is the force going against us as we attempt to complete the creative act we are called to do.
Pressfield writes that fear is good and we must use it as a barometer as we proceed. The more fear we face, the more we are called to completion and know the path is for us.
Fear, for me, was never anything front and center. It sat in the back corner of the bedroom late at night, a cold fog that drifted across my pillow and manifested in doubt. What if, it asked, what if you failed?
What if you lost control?
I had a counselor tell me once that God meets us in the center of our greatest fear. I had mentioned the loss of control and he replied, “then I’d hate to see what may happen.” While I’m not totally over my control issues (why I spend hours behind a keyboard, because the words tend to listen most of the time), I feel like I’m getting better.
Progress requires faith. Letting go requires picking up our new path.
Our best memories are the ones to come. We must value our impact on the world. Our calling will better ourselves and those around us. I pray, every day, that these words will make a difference in someone’s life.
The journey happens in steps. Don’t forget to soak up and enjoy the important moments along the way.
You can, and you will, change someone’s life. The only question is how.