“How many of you can say you would never kill someone?”
The question floated over us. We were undergraduates in a Literature and Psychology class, an experience that goes down as one of my favorite semesters of my life. The students were a mix of majors and the professor, Dr. Browne, had experience in both fields. We analyzed characters and ourselves as the months flew by.
As a young believer, I raised my hand. I thought, hey, followers of Jesus are all about peace and I would never take a life.
“You’re lying,” Dr. Browne said as he laughed. “You mean to tell me, if you walked into your house and found a guy attacking your family, you wouldn’t defend them? Even to the death?”
As a family of believers, we are known more for what we don’t forgive than what we do. 2015 has become the year of exclusive faith, from bakeries to court clerks.
In the Bible, Peter asks Jesus about forgiveness. The custom, at the time, was to forgive seven times. Jesus replies not seven but seventy times seven. He forgives sins often, to the frustration and anger of the high priests. Only God, they believe, can forgive sins.
We’ve strayed from the path to the point of walking backwards. We focus on what we can’t do rather than the courage to take on new challenges and adventures. We ask for wisdom to avoid danger and ignore the strength needed to push forward. We react rather than act.
We’ve been pushed into a corner by our unwillingness to love our neighbors if they don’t behave the way we want.
The concept of forgiveness comes with implied empowerment. I forgive you is often heard, and said, with condescension and not humility. We need to redefine the term for what it really is:
-from pain, anger, heartbreak and offense.
For the scars do not vanish. They get molded into a figure of beauty and grace blazing with the touch of the Almighty.
If you have a few minutes, watch this video posted by Bleacher Report. It is the profile of Darnel Dockett, defensive lineman for the San Francisco 49ers. Dockett’s mother was murdered when he was a young teenager. Catch the last two minutes and pay attention.
How many of us would say the same to our mother’s killer? I pray that, one day, Dockett gets his chance.