Last night I picked Carter up from school and took him to Wayback Burger for dinner (a Wednesday night tradition). We ran a few more errands and when we got home he told me he wanted to read me a book. I thought he was joking. He’s a kid that would rather toss a football than read a book any day of the week.
We sat on the couch and he grabbed the book, opened it up, and read through without getting frustrated. When he finished he looked at me and smiled. It was one of those moments I wish I could keep forever. My oldest boy, 7 going on 17, growing and changing so fast.
As a father, husband, and man who follows Jesus, change can be a challenge.
I remember spending summer weeks with my grandparents. Poppy would take me fishing. We’d play cards and eat lunch together (I would take a nap! Imagine that. I have no idea what that means now). Suddenly, one summer, it was time to get a job.
Then it was time to graduate and apply to college. The day came to move into the dorms (complete with me sitting in my car, in tears, with Val next to me). Then graduation, job and job and job.
Marriage in 2007. Home. Carter. Aiden. Turning 30. Back to school. Publishing short stories and finally a novel. Work in the medical field.
In John 16:33, Jesus says, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
This is one of those verses we remember and lean on in the rough times. If you look closer, there’s an interesting dynamic. He says we may have peace and that we will have trouble. Peace comes in hope, in faith knowing that one has taken our place and died to give us life again.
So many live on the Peace Illusion.
The idea that it will all calm down as long as we have _____. Fill in the blank: money, time, a beautiful spouse, amazing kids, a vacation home, etc.
Churches live in the Peace Illusion: the deceptive draw of routine, of stubborn unwillingness to have a dialogue, of fear in stepping out to help those on the fringe, the very ones Jesus associated with on a daily basis. Churches seem to forget that Jesus constantly condemned religious leaders of the day. He scolded the pious and the wealthy.
He called those ready to live a life of change, outside the Peace Illusion.
Tonight, as you finish your day, think about what you accomplished and what will be different tomorrow. Embrace change. Carter’s book will become a novel soon enough. He’ll be asking me for car keys and we’ll be loading his boxes for college.
The story isn’t over. It is never too late to start fresh. Because tomorrow is a mystery that can change in an instant.
And I’m okay with that.