When I worked in the emergency room, it happened every few nights. The waiting room was full, the treatment rooms full with at least two or three intoxicated patients in the back. Parents would be holding injured children. Hours ticked past and you felt the tension.
Soon, a person would snap and start yelling at us and we’d have to get security involved. They’d calm until the next one yelled.
Eight hours of work in a toxic environment is enough to ware down even the strongest of souls. It doesn’t always take the dramatic form of an emergency room. It can be a classroom, an office, a factory floor or retail store.
It can be the dinner table.
Toxic environments impact every person inside their borders. The tension is real. Loved ones hurt each other with words and actions. Coworkers gossip. Creativity is stifled and hope vanishes. There is no ownership, no teamwork, and no personal or corporate incentive.
You show up, put in time, and leave
There are ways to escape.
Find Your Passion– Make your work line up with your passion. This is easier said than done in the current economic environment but, the advent of social media and technology has leveled the playing field. You can learn a new skill through research and free resources found online. You can set up a website and start finding customers through various free platforms. Think of what you’d do if you could pick anything and chart out the path to make it happen. The biggest risk is not taking a shot at all.
Find Your Community– Toxic environments destroy community. They isolate and capture, creating conflict and discord. The only bonding occurs over negative talk and stories as criticism becomes the accepted language. Finding a genuine community helps you break free. Some of those nights in the emergency room, I was blessed to work with others who followed Jesus and we made a point to make each other laugh and keep things light. At home, start small with a walk around the block, date night, or doing homework at the kitchen table. Build bonds and know you are not alone. Walking the path together always makes things easier.
Find Your Creativity– Break old routines by making something new. Creation breeds passion and community. Look at your current situation and make a list of what could change. How could you be a part of it? What new ideas could you bring to the table? We are all called to create. Listen to your calling.
Find Your Faith– I believe we are meant for something more. We are here to break through toxic environments. We are to be light in the darkness and salt of the earth. I believe we were born with purpose and passion.
You may read this tonight and feel the tug of truth. You may look in the mirror and know your soul is incomplete. Work tomorrow seems like jail and not freedom. The person sleeping next to you is distant. The kids are wild. You just had a fight with that parent that can’t seem to understand.
You are tired.
Make a list. Check the points above and find your freedom. It is possible and it can happen.
I’m making the journey and we can do it together.