It hasn’t been an easy two weeks.
I watched the turmoil of this election as it played out across the world. We’ve had our struggles in various parts of life. I’ve taken a job that has me working long shifts a few days a week and our family time has suffered.
Carter looked at me the other morning and said that he missed me and he wished I was home at night. As a father, hearing that breaks my heart.
You want to provide and make a difference but you don’t want to lose your son as a trade-off.
These weeks have seemed like a holding pattern.
I haven’t felt this much stress in a long time. And when I’d try to type I’d find nothing.
One of my goals recently is to be more honest. I’ve starting thinking about a project based on fatherhood, a book to reach out to other guys going through the same things as me.
Something for the rest of us that don’t have our lives lined up in a neat row. The ones not in the holiday movies wearing sweaters as a fire roars in the background. The dads staring down bills, stressed out spouses, crazy kids, and demands demands demands.
I’ve taken to listening to podcasts on the way home from work. Something about the miles of dark highway makes it easy to listen. I had on my guy, Pastor Erwin McManus, and he said this last night.
He said his wife asked him why he always speaks about courage and living an adventurous life. He replied:
It is my greatest fear to miss the opportunities God gives me and not live out the life he has planned for me.
His fear is missing the boat, the side street, the fork in the road that leads to God’s Grand Design.
I’ll admit, there are days where that design seems so far off in the distance that I’m not even standing at the starting line.
My fear, the thing that haunts me, is the same. It is missing the opportunities that are coming, the open doors, the connections, the chance to live a full life and do something to put a dent in the universe.
We find what we look for; a sliver of daylight in the night, a crack in the wall, a whisper in the silence. Sometimes we only have the strength to turn our heads in the right direction and, just barely, open our eyes.
It’s a start.