Yesterday was not easy. A few different things in life have crept up on us. Money is tight. The kids are crazy. The temps have risen and the weeks are busy, even without school. Carter has a camp in the morning Monday through Friday. They usually spend the afternoon at the pool and, when they get home, they fight like cats and dogs.
I’ve found out that, at these points, God is trying to tell me something. Yesterday I went to the pool after work to check in with Val and the kids, then drove home. I walked inside overwhelmed, hot, and tired. Scrolling through Facebook I found a preview of a message from Pastor Erwin McManus, my favorite speaker. I knew, after watching the minute clip, I had to see the entire thing.
The theme of the word was Unchained, a message about where and how we find our identities, about our mentality moving forward. I was challenged and convicted in many ways. Today, this morning, it still has me thinking.
The hardest part of your 30’s is that the foundation of your past is tested. You spend your teens forming adult you will become, your 20s finding out more about that person and grasping the freedoms (and responsibilities) that find you. In your 30’s you find out if your foundation was true or needed some adjustment. It seems to be the testing period more than any other.
In your 20’s you have hope and time to catch up. In your 30’s, your spot in the game of life has cleared slightly. You start to understand.
One thing Pastor Erwin said in his message is that we often tell a dangerous lie, that once you come to faith things will get easier. Often, it does not. God will tear you down to build you into the person you are designed to be. I’ve come to understand this is a pillar of faith. It took time to get there, but I got it. We are called to refinement through our struggles.
I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of surviving. I want to live. I want to dream big, to write words that impact the world. I want to step out into the universe and play a part in changing lives. That person, that idealized self, may seem a million miles away right now, but he does exist.
I believe we are called to more.
We try to find our identities so many places. We grasp onto groups and things, we try to find the mystery of who we are and, in doing so, we push away and pull in those swirling in our orbit. We take out our frustrations, get jaded, and suddenly a year becomes ten.
Faith is so hard.
Ever notice that theme in the Bible? The one the prosperity guys try to ignore? Paul is blinded. Peter denies Jesus. John is jailed in exile. One by one the disciples are martyred for their faith. Those meeting Jesus are taken to their breaking points, or are there already.
The hard part is claiming who you are and what comes with it. The responsibilities of faith, to impact the world and change lives. To reach out to those in pain and offer solace, to express your feelings when they’ve been hidden away for years. To open yourself up to pain, to trust, to love from someone when everyone else has broken your heart.
So the journey may not get easier right now. The choice, though, that is step one. Make the choice. As I tell my kids all the time, nothing changes if nothing changes.
If I could tell you the mountain I’m staring up at right now, truly capture it in words, you would understand how hard it is to write this. Maybe you are staring at your own mountain to climb, chasm to cross, river to swim. The life God wants for you waits at the other side. It may be easier to turn around but, every time that clock ticks part of your soul will pull you back to the decision point.
One day you take step one. Until then, be strong and know you will make it.