I met Val when I was sixteen and she was seventeen. We’ve been together since 1999 and married since 2007. We’ve experienced each other as teenagers and adults, grown into the realities of marriage and children and what it takes to build a life together.
One night, in the early years of dating, I was helping her brother put an air conditioner in Val’s bedroom window. They’d lived in an old twin home at the time and the place had windows that were likely original. The window we were working on got stuck, probably because of the humid night, and I placed my hand securely on the sill and started to push up.
The thing wouldn’t move.
Two minutes later it finally moved and, in one swift moment, I put my hand right through the glass. The window shattered.
Thankfully, I made it without any serious cuts or wounds.
There are moments where you look in the mirror and decide you’ve had enough.
The turnover to 2019 was one of those moments for us as a family.
We looked in the mirror and realized we were tired. Tired of debt. Tired of being unhealthy. Tired of feeling lost. Tired of just surviving. Tired of being tired.
So we decided to change things.
We’re back in the gym (I’m down more than ten pounds so far). We are building our savings and finally designing a budget (starting Financial Peace University next week). We are attending church again.
Some of our goals may be common, but they are valuable to us: Finding authentic community, becoming financially solvent, being better parents and living in the moment with our boys, support a charity and becoming more generous.
We’ve decided to support Through the Heart, a non-profit that assists families dealing with miscarriage and infant loss. We remember how it felt for us and we’re so excited to help families dealing with the same.
I’m in the midst of reading The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday, a book that is changing my life about moving forward with purpose. I highly recommend it as every chapter is gold.
This path won’t be easy but, when you have a mirror moment, you can’t go backwards. You can’t sit still anymore.
You burn the boats at the shore.
In many ways, this is a start we should have had years ago. That’s the point though, to start, because as long as you’re breathing you have time to make a difference. We’ve spent too long not investing in ourselves and our family.
The time for change has arrived.