My current binge show is The Witcher on Netflix. Henry Cavill’s plays Geralt, the main character, a monster hunter with supernatural powers. The source material is from a series of novels that have spawned other visual adaptations including video games.
The writing and technical work of the series is better than I’d anticipated. The characters play with the idea of destiny, fate, choice and power. Three stories overlap at the moment, chronologically, and I’m looking forward to the intersection point as I’m almost finished season one.
In episode 6, Geralt is talking to his love interest Yennifer. Yennifer is played by Anna Chalotra. Chalotra kills it, owning her scenes and the story of Yennifer’s transformation. Both Geralt and Yennifer were forced into their roles and neither had a choice. In this scene, Yennifer asks Geralt if he regrets being a witcher. He replies,
“It’s hard to regret something you didn’t choose.”
It’s these phrases that shine of skilled screenwriting and they are scattered throughout the series. The idea of regret and choice creates an interesting dichotomy.
Can we regret something that was forced on us? How about choices made outside our say or influence? Is the nature of regret something we can only own and access on a solo basis?
Look back at the traumas of the past. We can feel pain and sorrow, anger and frustration. We can only control the reach of our influence. We can mourn for loss, but loss shapes us into who we are meant to be. It punctuates our story.
If we agree with Geralt’s line, we move forward with new insight. It is our choice to reshape how we see the past. We can burn down the chains and use them to drive us forward. We can reset healthy boundaries and own our spaces and influence. We can look forward as victors as victory comes in survival.
We can see the utmost value of choice, the power in the moments we offer it to someone else. The concept of not wasting a choice because we never know when the next will come.
The world is not always fighting monsters. No matter your role, know your power. Know your past and where you hitch the powerful emotion of regret. Your future relies on it.