I started a Netflix binge on the show Altered Carbon. The cast is solid, the writing is skilled and the visuals sell the show. The basis of the story, off the novels by the same name, is a futuristic world where there is now two kinds of death. People have “stacks” in the back of their neck where their consciousness resides in a small disc. You can die, if your disk is salvageable, and find yourself placed in a new “sleeve” if you have the means to do so. You can RD “real death” if the stack is destroyed. The show dives deep into the meaning of death and immortality, faith and power.
One of the main characters delivers a stirring speech about death being the great equalizer, how it gives meaning and people weren’t designed to live forever.
I believe that, at certain points, God is trying to tell us something.
Last month, my wife and I lost a baby. She was pregnant 18 weeks at the time. I’ll never forget that night in the ER. One of Val’s close friends is battling cancer a second time. We are a country reeling from school shootings and acts of violence. The prospect of looking at mortality seems to be a current issue.
There is no coincidence that our faith systems operate on what happens after death and really our life systems do also. Our days are either filled with meaning or denied meaning, stress or peace, life or avoidance. Often, all these forces act together and sometimes within a few minute span.
Faith and death are connected.
I remember reading the Bible as a kid and agreeing, thinking that I believed it. It was an Okay Now What? moment. Then life happened. I did eventually find myself in a genuine faith encounter and, after it, life happened again. The path is about the struggle and how we handle it. Mindset dictates action. Faith dictates mindset.
Though this isn’t always true.
Read through the Psalms, Jeremiah, the account of Peter around Easter and you’ll find imperfect people giving voice to their conflicts of faith and reality, hope and experience.
After Val had the miscarriage, Carter said to me, “Dad, I wish our lives were normal.” I said that the hard stuff is normal, the trick is how you respond to it. Things haven’t been easy the last few months and sometimes faith is the act of getting up in the morning to do it all over again.
We take things for granted.
I usually spent summers, before summer jobs, at my grandparents. Now I’m typing this post at work, in my mid thirties, but I still remember weekday mornings. We’d get in my grandfather’s truck and go to the diner that sat across from the French Creek Outfitters, a fishing and hunting store. We’d have breakfast and go buy some lures to use that morning.
He’d pop a country music tape (Mel Tillis, Patsy Cline) into his truck and we’d head to the pond. I remember him methodically working his way around the shore casting and casting again. My young mind went off in many directions. I’d think about school, tv shows, anything.
I’d kill for one more cup of coffee and one summer morning at that pond, for a few hours of conversation that I didn’t know I needed at the time.
Time keeps moving and death does give it relevance. Everything is relevant. Everything counts no matter how far we hide it under our mental gymnastics, addictions, conversations, media, and other means of denial.
Because in the end the sum of our lives is the moments we give and take, the ones we want to grab and squeeze and pull every single second from because it all slips away and that war has taken down great people and civilizations. It sits deep in our heart and, over time, we decide how to deal with it.
Faith pulls us close and rips us apart. It also builds us up again one stitch at a time.